Mort Fertel advises to table your marriage problems rather than addressing them head on. However, this is way harder than it seems.
I know how hard it is. I just had to deal with some setbacks in my marriage and if I didn’t address them right away, my marriage problems could have escalated.
Truth be told, I don’t feel I have any marriage problems right now and that’s a scary place to be. What do I mean?
If there’s one thing I learned for sure from Mort Fertel, and why I created this Mort Fertel Review, is the fact that your marriage ALWAYS needs nurturing. Behind the scenes there are ALWAYS marriage problems brewing and if you’re not aware of them, they will escalate.
The fortunate thing however, for me and you reading this, is that we have in our arsenal excellent marriage saving tips thanks to Mort Fertel.
Let me explain.
For about 3 to 4 weeks I was feeling neglected by my wife. We just didn’t seem to be connecting like we used to. It seemed she was more interested in hanging out with her friends every Thursday night rather than spending time with me. Soon Thursday nights escalating into a few Wednesday’ and Friday’s without me. Inevitably conversation we would have started surrounding around her friends.
What was going on behind the scenes that I was able to learn thanks to Mort Fertel?
After some careful analysis, I figured it out. Denise and I were still hanging out together like we always did BUT now instead of going out to dinner alone, just the 2 of us, we always seemed to be going out with other people as well. Though this can be fun at times, if saving your marriage is your priority, this activity must be limited immediately.
Once I realized this marriage problem brewing, I sat down and had a heart to heart with my wife. I simply told her how I felt and how I was worried that we weren’t connecting like we used to. Thankfully she acknowledged it as well but chalked it up to a simple mishap and said that it’s OK… we’re going to have our ups and downs and maybe not connect all the time!!!
OH OH! This is when I really got scared.
Here she is… the love of my life saying she understands and is OK with us not connecting right now because she FEELS it’s normal.
You know what. It probably is NORMAL for other couples but NOT for me. There is no way I’m living my life like that again. I’ve already been down the road of almost getting a divorce and having to fight tooth and nail to save my marriage. I can’t tell you how many nights I stayed awake reading Mort Fertel and all his advice.
As such, today, Mort Fertel’s theories and advice are so ingrained in me that I can’t help but do things to save my marriage.
My mind, very quickly, snapped back to reality where I realized I needed to once again show 100% initiative to save my marriage and make it blossom like it was just a short 3 or 4 weeks ago.
What did I end up doing?
Starting going on strict date nights again.
Luckily for us, all the other things we’d been doing to avoid marriage problems and save our marriage were still working. Things like talk charges during the day… small gifts for each other… listening to each other… so on and so forth.
Going on strict date nights again JUST THE 2 OF US was the ticket our marriage needed at that exact moment. Since then, almost on autopilot, I’ve been making plans to take Denise out to dinner – just the 2 of us – and no one else. Typically we would do this and then after dinner go meet some friends but even that I’m avoiding right now.
I want the date night to be just about us and no one else. Eventually we will filter other FRIENDS into our lives but THEY ARE NOT a PRIORITY… my wife and saving my marriage is.
Am I a genius for realizing and implementing all this? No, not at all! Simply put… Mort Fertel’s advice on saving my marriage is so ingrained in my thinking, that when I feel any type of resistance in my marriage moving super smoothly, I go back to all the advice Mort Fertel provided. As such, I hope you enjoyed this post and please keep reading this Mort Fertel Review.