Saving my Marriage – Dressed Like a Woman

What on earth does dressing up like a woman have to do with saving my marriage?

Before your mind goes crazy, here’s the extent of my dressing up.

Saving my Marriage - Even in High Heels!

Saving my Marriage – Even in High Heels!

As you can see, it was merely high heels that I wore. Nothing more. I wasn’t a drag queen or anything like that for crying out loud. LOL.

None-the-less, walking around in high heels gave me ammunition to save my marriage and even strengthen it.

How you ask?

Good question.

But first let me tell you why I was wearing high heels to begin with. Here, where I live and pretty much throughout the country, YWCA sponsors an annual Walk a Mile in Her Shoes fund-raising event. The proceeds raised go towards building awareness for domestic violence and in fact helping women to be housed. The cause is an amazing one to begin with which is why I got involved.

Basically, for one night, MEN, not women, walk around town for a total of 1 mile in high heel shoes. Prior to the event, they solicit donations from the local community and their own friends and colleagues.

The night started around 6pm and by 6.25 the 1 mile walk was pretty much complete.  I however decided I would keep wearing my high heels the ENTIRE night.  It so happens we stayed out till 2am that night. Ugh!

Reason for my madness?

It dawned on me that I don’t know of any women that go out for the night in high heels and simply quit after 1 mile of walking. My wife definitely doesn’t so why should I. To truly walk in her shoes, I needed to keep the movement going all night.

Now… how on earth is this fodder to save a marriage and stop a divorce and what does it have to do with this Mort Fertel Review?

You see… after walking around the whole night in high heels, the next day, my feet were in soooooo much pain it was almost unbearable. I had no idea high heels could do such a number on your feet. I almost begged my wife for a foot massage and even black mailed my kids in doing it for me. In fact, 3 weeks after the event and my left foot is still a little numb. It’s crazy I know but it’s true.

Anyway, after discovering this excruciating pain I realized that a brilliant way of giving my wife a gift – just like Mort Fertel advises in his Marriage Fitness program – is to give her a foot massage every morning after she wears high heels for our date nights.

It may seem common sense and simple – and it is – but guess what? Most husbands just aren’t thinking like this.

I however, thanks to Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program am always thinking of ways I can do small “consistent” things for my wife to show her how much she means to me.

Would I have done this before learning all the marriage saving skills through Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program? Probably not! I just wasn’t thinking like that. Saving my marriage wasn’t a priority then. But it definitely is now!

And thanks to Mort Fertel, I’m always looking for ways to keeping marriage problems away from my marriage and saving my marriage consistently and daily.

I hope you enjoyed this quick post and I look forward to writing more in this Mort Fertel Review.

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Bouncing Back from Set Backs and How to Save Your Marriage Mort Fertel Style

Mort Fertel advises to table your marriage problems rather than addressing them head on. However, this is way harder than it seems.

I know how hard it is. I just had to deal with some setbacks in my marriage and if I didn’t address them right away, my marriage problems could have escalated.

Truth be told, I don’t feel I have any marriage problems right now and that’s a scary place to be. What do I mean?

If there’s one thing I learned for sure from Mort Fertel, and why I created this Mort Fertel Review, is the fact that your marriage ALWAYS needs nurturing. Behind the scenes there are ALWAYS marriage problems brewing and if you’re not aware of them, they will escalate.

The fortunate thing however, for me and you reading this, is that we have in our arsenal excellent marriage saving tips thanks to Mort Fertel.

Let me explain.

For about 3 to 4 weeks I was feeling neglected by my wife. We just didn’t seem to be connecting like we used to. It seemed she was more interested in hanging out with her friends every Thursday night rather than spending time with me. Soon Thursday nights escalating into a few Wednesday’ and Friday’s without me. Inevitably conversation we would have started surrounding around her friends.

What was going on behind the scenes that I was able to learn thanks to Mort Fertel?

After some careful analysis, I figured it out. Denise and I were still hanging out together like we always did BUT now instead of going out to dinner alone, just the 2 of us, we always seemed to be going out with other people as well. Though this can be fun at times, if saving your marriage is your priority, this activity must be limited immediately.

Once I realized this marriage problem brewing, I sat down and had a heart to heart with my wife. I simply told her how I felt and how I was worried that we weren’t connecting like we used to. Thankfully she acknowledged it as well but chalked it up to a simple mishap and said that it’s OK… we’re going to have our ups and downs and maybe not connect all the time!!!

OH OH! This is when I really got scared.

Here she is… the love of my life saying she understands and is OK with us not connecting right now because she FEELS it’s normal.

You know what. It probably is NORMAL for other couples but NOT for me. There is no way I’m living my life like that again. I’ve already been down the road of almost getting a divorce and having to fight tooth and nail to save my marriage. I can’t tell you how many nights I stayed awake reading Mort Fertel and all his advice.

As such, today, Mort Fertel’s theories and advice are so ingrained in me that I can’t help but do things to save my marriage.

My mind, very quickly, snapped back to reality where I realized I needed to once again show 100% initiative to save my marriage and make it blossom like it was just a short 3 or 4 weeks ago.

What did I end up doing?

Starting going on strict date nights again.

Luckily for us, all the other things we’d been doing to avoid marriage problems and save our marriage were still working. Things like talk charges during the day… small gifts for each other… listening to each other… so on and so forth.

Going on strict date nights again JUST THE 2 OF US was the ticket our marriage needed at that exact moment. Since then, almost on autopilot, I’ve been making plans to take Denise out to dinner – just the 2 of us – and no one else. Typically we would do this and then after dinner go meet some friends but even that I’m avoiding right now.

I want the date night to be just about us and no one else. Eventually we will filter other FRIENDS into our lives but THEY ARE NOT a PRIORITY… my wife and saving my marriage is.

Am I a genius for realizing and implementing all this? No, not at all! Simply put… Mort Fertel’s advice on saving my marriage is so ingrained in my thinking, that when I feel any type of resistance in my marriage moving super smoothly, I go back to all the advice Mort Fertel provided. As such, I hope you enjoyed this post and please keep reading this Mort Fertel Review.

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Mort Fertel says to Put Love First – How Do You Do It and How Can This Help Save Your Marriage?

Mort Fertel would love this!

It’s 2:54 pm on Friday and I’m leaving a random bar/restaurant where I just spent 2 hours with my wife.  Earlier today I was sitting in my office because I had a crap load of work to do but my wife asked me a fairly innocent question.

“Hey honey…what’s your day like today?”

I instantly replied “not too bad… you want to have a day date and have lunch?”

She replies, “yes, that’s exactly what I was thinking”.

Long story short, we were in tune with each other and for the next couple hours I kicked butt to get my work done while she did too so we could go spend some quality time with each other while our kids were still at school.

Why exactly is this relevant when it comes to Mort Fertel and how to save a marriage?

Here’s why.  Truth is…prior to going through Mort Fertel Marriage Fitness I doubt I would have put my work aside to go out on a random date lunch with my wife.  Back then before I learned how to save a marriage, my work was the priority… not my wife.  Not anymore though.

Ever since I learned the “Put Love First” concept from Marriage Fitness, I look for and take advantage of these opportunities?

Why?

Simple!  It’s an easy way for me to show my wife she is the #1 priority in my life.  That I will literally drop everything if it means I can spend time connecting with here.

The fact is, if you’re here I presume you know I had marriage problems.  They were serious in nature and had become so big that I had to literally scratch and crawl to stop my divorce and save my marriage.    And the biggest reason I had these marriage problems in the first place was because I was cheating on my wife.

No… not the way you’re thinking!  I was not cheating on her with another woman, but rather my work.  You see…she wasn’t my priority, my work was!  Given the choice before, I would rather have spent time working then take a break to spend time with my wife.  I would have instead said, “I’m sorry I can’t, I have too much work to do!”

Have you done that before?  Think about it.  What is that telling your spouse?  That work is more important than them right?

Of course there needs to be a balance.  It’s not like every day I drop everything in favor of having a random lunch with my wife and a couple beers during the day.

By the way, if you haven’t ever done that, try it.  Going to a bar during the day with the person you love is brilliant.  It’s usually just you and them and you can really pay attention to each other.  It’s a great experience!

We basically spent 2 hours just hanging out with each other.  We reconnected for the day.  We looked into each other’s eyes.  We played one of those MegaTouch games where you look at 2 different pictures to see what the differences are. We had lunch and shared a sandwich together.

Bottom line, we connected in almost every way while we were there for 2 hours.  This little 2 hour break was 1000 times better than any marriage therapy or marriage counseling you could ever pay for and it only cost us $49.

As a side note, “it only cost US $49”.  See how I used the word US instead of me.  That’s another huge lesson I plan on posting about sometime soon.  Prior to Marriage Fitness I used to say “cost me” and there’s a huge reason you should stop doing that.

Anyway, back to my post.

Traditional marriage counseling just doesn’t cut it when it comes to saving a marriage. Instead Mort Fertel Marriage Fitness is the way to go because once you’ve gone through it and you sincerely want to change, almost naturally you’ll start doing the things I just described above.  You will become another person!

I hope you pay attention and start doing it because my story above is the perfect example of how you can “Put Love First” Mort Fertel style!

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