Mort Fertel would love this!
It’s 2:54 pm on Friday and I’m leaving a random bar/restaurant where I just spent 2 hours with my wife. Earlier today I was sitting in my office because I had a crap load of work to do but my wife asked me a fairly innocent question.
“Hey honey…what’s your day like today?”
I instantly replied “not too bad… you want to have a day date and have lunch?”
She replies, “yes, that’s exactly what I was thinking”.
Long story short, we were in tune with each other and for the next couple hours I kicked butt to get my work done while she did too so we could go spend some quality time with each other while our kids were still at school.
Why exactly is this relevant when it comes to Mort Fertel and how to save a marriage?
Here’s why. Truth is…prior to going through Mort Fertel Marriage Fitness I doubt I would have put my work aside to go out on a random date lunch with my wife. Back then before I learned how to save a marriage, my work was the priority… not my wife. Not anymore though.
Ever since I learned the “Put Love First” concept from Marriage Fitness, I look for and take advantage of these opportunities?
Simple! It’s an easy way for me to show my wife she is the #1 priority in my life. That I will literally drop everything if it means I can spend time connecting with here.
The fact is, if you’re here I presume you know I had marriage problems. They were serious in nature and had become so big that I had to literally scratch and crawl to stop my divorce and save my marriage. And the biggest reason I had these marriage problems in the first place was because I was cheating on my wife.
No… not the way you’re thinking! I was not cheating on her with another woman, but rather my work. You see…she wasn’t my priority, my work was! Given the choice before, I would rather have spent time working then take a break to spend time with my wife. I would have instead said, “I’m sorry I can’t, I have too much work to do!”
Have you done that before? Think about it. What is that telling your spouse? That work is more important than them right?
Of course there needs to be a balance. It’s not like every day I drop everything in favor of having a random lunch with my wife and a couple beers during the day.
By the way, if you haven’t ever done that, try it. Going to a bar during the day with the person you love is brilliant. It’s usually just you and them and you can really pay attention to each other. It’s a great experience!
We basically spent 2 hours just hanging out with each other. We reconnected for the day. We looked into each other’s eyes. We played one of those MegaTouch games where you look at 2 different pictures to see what the differences are. We had lunch and shared a sandwich together.
Bottom line, we connected in almost every way while we were there for 2 hours. This little 2 hour break was 1000 times better than any marriage therapy or marriage counseling you could ever pay for and it only cost us $49.
As a side note, “it only cost US $49”. See how I used the word US instead of me. That’s another huge lesson I plan on posting about sometime soon. Prior to Marriage Fitness I used to say “cost me” and there’s a huge reason you should stop doing that.
Anyway, back to my post.
Traditional marriage counseling just doesn’t cut it when it comes to saving a marriage. Instead Mort Fertel Marriage Fitness is the way to go because once you’ve gone through it and you sincerely want to change, almost naturally you’ll start doing the things I just described above. You will become another person!
I hope you pay attention and start doing it because my story above is the perfect example of how you can “Put Love First” Mort Fertel style!