Saving my Marriage – Dressed Like a Woman

What on earth does dressing up like a woman have to do with saving my marriage?

Before your mind goes crazy, here’s the extent of my dressing up.

Saving my Marriage - Even in High Heels!

Saving my Marriage – Even in High Heels!

As you can see, it was merely high heels that I wore. Nothing more. I wasn’t a drag queen or anything like that for crying out loud. LOL.

None-the-less, walking around in high heels gave me ammunition to save my marriage and even strengthen it.

How you ask?

Good question.

But first let me tell you why I was wearing high heels to begin with. Here, where I live and pretty much throughout the country, YWCA sponsors an annual Walk a Mile in Her Shoes fund-raising event. The proceeds raised go towards building awareness for domestic violence and in fact helping women to be housed. The cause is an amazing one to begin with which is why I got involved.

Basically, for one night, MEN, not women, walk around town for a total of 1 mile in high heel shoes. Prior to the event, they solicit donations from the local community and their own friends and colleagues.

The night started around 6pm and by 6.25 the 1 mile walk was pretty much complete.  I however decided I would keep wearing my high heels the ENTIRE night.  It so happens we stayed out till 2am that night. Ugh!

Reason for my madness?

It dawned on me that I don’t know of any women that go out for the night in high heels and simply quit after 1 mile of walking. My wife definitely doesn’t so why should I. To truly walk in her shoes, I needed to keep the movement going all night.

Now… how on earth is this fodder to save a marriage and stop a divorce and what does it have to do with this Mort Fertel Review?

You see… after walking around the whole night in high heels, the next day, my feet were in soooooo much pain it was almost unbearable. I had no idea high heels could do such a number on your feet. I almost begged my wife for a foot massage and even black mailed my kids in doing it for me. In fact, 3 weeks after the event and my left foot is still a little numb. It’s crazy I know but it’s true.

Anyway, after discovering this excruciating pain I realized that a brilliant way of giving my wife a gift – just like Mort Fertel advises in his Marriage Fitness program – is to give her a foot massage every morning after she wears high heels for our date nights.

It may seem common sense and simple – and it is – but guess what? Most husbands just aren’t thinking like this.

I however, thanks to Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program am always thinking of ways I can do small “consistent” things for my wife to show her how much she means to me.

Would I have done this before learning all the marriage saving skills through Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program? Probably not! I just wasn’t thinking like that. Saving my marriage wasn’t a priority then. But it definitely is now!

And thanks to Mort Fertel, I’m always looking for ways to keeping marriage problems away from my marriage and saving my marriage consistently and daily.

I hope you enjoyed this quick post and I look forward to writing more in this Mort Fertel Review.

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Bouncing Back from Set Backs and How to Save Your Marriage Mort Fertel Style

Mort Fertel advises to table your marriage problems rather than addressing them head on. However, this is way harder than it seems.

I know how hard it is. I just had to deal with some setbacks in my marriage and if I didn’t address them right away, my marriage problems could have escalated.

Truth be told, I don’t feel I have any marriage problems right now and that’s a scary place to be. What do I mean?

If there’s one thing I learned for sure from Mort Fertel, and why I created this Mort Fertel Review, is the fact that your marriage ALWAYS needs nurturing. Behind the scenes there are ALWAYS marriage problems brewing and if you’re not aware of them, they will escalate.

The fortunate thing however, for me and you reading this, is that we have in our arsenal excellent marriage saving tips thanks to Mort Fertel.

Let me explain.

For about 3 to 4 weeks I was feeling neglected by my wife. We just didn’t seem to be connecting like we used to. It seemed she was more interested in hanging out with her friends every Thursday night rather than spending time with me. Soon Thursday nights escalating into a few Wednesday’ and Friday’s without me. Inevitably conversation we would have started surrounding around her friends.

What was going on behind the scenes that I was able to learn thanks to Mort Fertel?

After some careful analysis, I figured it out. Denise and I were still hanging out together like we always did BUT now instead of going out to dinner alone, just the 2 of us, we always seemed to be going out with other people as well. Though this can be fun at times, if saving your marriage is your priority, this activity must be limited immediately.

Once I realized this marriage problem brewing, I sat down and had a heart to heart with my wife. I simply told her how I felt and how I was worried that we weren’t connecting like we used to. Thankfully she acknowledged it as well but chalked it up to a simple mishap and said that it’s OK… we’re going to have our ups and downs and maybe not connect all the time!!!

OH OH! This is when I really got scared.

Here she is… the love of my life saying she understands and is OK with us not connecting right now because she FEELS it’s normal.

You know what. It probably is NORMAL for other couples but NOT for me. There is no way I’m living my life like that again. I’ve already been down the road of almost getting a divorce and having to fight tooth and nail to save my marriage. I can’t tell you how many nights I stayed awake reading Mort Fertel and all his advice.

As such, today, Mort Fertel’s theories and advice are so ingrained in me that I can’t help but do things to save my marriage.

My mind, very quickly, snapped back to reality where I realized I needed to once again show 100% initiative to save my marriage and make it blossom like it was just a short 3 or 4 weeks ago.

What did I end up doing?

Starting going on strict date nights again.

Luckily for us, all the other things we’d been doing to avoid marriage problems and save our marriage were still working. Things like talk charges during the day… small gifts for each other… listening to each other… so on and so forth.

Going on strict date nights again JUST THE 2 OF US was the ticket our marriage needed at that exact moment. Since then, almost on autopilot, I’ve been making plans to take Denise out to dinner – just the 2 of us – and no one else. Typically we would do this and then after dinner go meet some friends but even that I’m avoiding right now.

I want the date night to be just about us and no one else. Eventually we will filter other FRIENDS into our lives but THEY ARE NOT a PRIORITY… my wife and saving my marriage is.

Am I a genius for realizing and implementing all this? No, not at all! Simply put… Mort Fertel’s advice on saving my marriage is so ingrained in my thinking, that when I feel any type of resistance in my marriage moving super smoothly, I go back to all the advice Mort Fertel provided. As such, I hope you enjoyed this post and please keep reading this Mort Fertel Review.

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How Can I Save My Marriage Asked My Friend? You Won’t Believe What I Told Him!

“I need to Save My Marriage?”

What should I do?

Considering I have an amazing success rate in saving my marriage thanks to Mort Fertel Marriage Fitness, friends and strangers alike have been asking me for marriage help for a few years now.

And I love helping where I can so it was no surprise when one of my friends asked me an emotional “how can I save my marriage. I need to stop a divorce. Help me”

His desperation brought back some nasty memories for me but here are the questions I asked him followed by some straight forward advice to save a marriage and stop a divorce.

First question I asked was…

“Ok explain to me what’s going on?”

Of course at this…he like almost all of us went on and starting explaining how his wife was screwing up and jeopardizing their marriage several different ways. Not only was she not giving the marriage any more effort but she was also entertaining conversations with an old romantic flame from high school.

Knowing this was a very emotionally charged situation I was careful on how I proceeded but my questioning began as follows.

“First things first, I’m sorry you’re going through this man…I know it sucks…but tell me, what role have you played in this marriage collapsing to its current point?”

Shocked with my line of questioning my friend asked… “didn’t you hear what I just said…my wife is talking to an old romantic flame from high school…she’s the one f***ing up”.

I replied “I understand that but trust me… she didn’t just wake up one day and say to herself…you know what…I’m going to reconnect with an old romantic flame from high school.

No… truth be told, she’s probably been miserable for quite some time and only now are you seeing the results of that past misery.

So once again… what was your role in allowing this marriage to get where it is today?”

Now my friend was starting to see the picture more clearly.

Far too often when it comes to marriage problems we want to blame the other party but if there’s one valuable lesson I learned from Mort Fertel Marriage Fitness, it’s that we need to concentrate on Our Own Problems before we start blaming others for our marriage problems.

After some more probing, my friend finally started to come up with some good answers. Here’s a list of the problems he’s personally caused in his marriage.

1. Neglecting his wife in favor of playing video games;
2. Not going to bed at the same time as his wife so completely losing the opportunity to be emotionally connected with her;
3. Not being available for her by phone during the day when she called for stuff – usually blaming it on both their busy work schedules;
4. Not taking the effort to connect with her during the day – not even a simple text to ask how your day was going;
5. Coming home from a long-day of work and rather than sitting and connecting with his wife, instead opening up a beer;
6. Drinking beer in excess daily until it became a major issue in their marriage;
7. Not going on regular dates with his wife;
8. Not doing special things for her just because; and
9. Many more I’m sure but you get the idea!

Once revealed I knew his marriage problems were severe!

How did I know this with certainty?

Because I have already gone through Mort Fertel Marriage Fitness and I personally was to blame for all these problems back in the day as well.

It was like déjà vu staring me smack in the face. I hated hearing about his problems because they brought back terrible memories of my marriage problems.

Now… given all this, what did I tell him to start doing immediately to start fixing his marriage problems and saving his marriage?

I wish the advice I gave him was profound but truth be told now that I’ve created this Mort Fertel Review it’s like second nature to me and so easy to come up with the right advice.

For starters I told him to:

#1: Table any issues he personally has with his wife and definitely to forget about the fact she’s talking to some old romantic flame.
• To fix your marriage problems, you need to start letting things go.
• Fixing a marriage isn’t about who’s right or wrong… it’s about creating a
connection again with your spouse to a point where marriage problems don’t exist
anymore.
• I explained to him that he’ll never forget about this other guy in the picture which in the end could be a good thing for him.
• For some reason or the other, she’s going to him for conversation rather than you.
• It’s your job to figure out why and be what she needs!

#2: I told him to sit down and try to remember how him and his wife used to be when they first fell in love.
• What did they used to do?
• How often did they see each other?
• How often would they laugh together?
• How often would they go on vacation?
• How often would they talk to each other during the day?

#3: After figuring out how they “used to be” I advised him to start doing some of the things they used to do. In essence his job became to create the same type of environment from the past where they were in love.

#4: I also advised him about working on himself. I asked him… “look… back in the day your wife was madly in love with you. Why? What was she in love with? Was it a guy who comes home and plays video games or someone who doesn’t talk to her and would rather drink beer? Who was it? Think deep about this?
• Upon investigation, my friend remembered some of the things he used to be into but has long let go because he moved on in life. He blamed it on marriage and kids.
• Look… getting married or having children isn’t a death sentence. You don’t have to reinvent yourself. You can be the same person as long as you are considerate to your spouse and kids.
• From this discovery, my friend has started to pursue some of his old passions like drag racing cars. As a side note… I told him that’s super cool. In fact pretty sexy if you ask me. Imagine yourself drag racing again with your helmet on. Your wife will probably be attracted to that again.

So there you have it…the advice I gave my friend in a nutshell on how to save a marriage and stop a divorce.

I wish I could take all the credit for this but I can’t.

I simply learned all this through Mort Fertel Marriage Fitness.

In fact my marriage is so strong today because of Mort Fertel that I have spent a considerable time over the last few years creating the Mort Fertel Review blog so others like you reading this right now can benefit from my mistakes and discovery.

Before I finish, if you’re having some marriage problems right now and need to save your marriage, I wholeheartedly recommend Mort’s program. Getting started couldn’t be easier.

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Good luck and I hope you enjoyed this post and once again thank you for checking out this Mort Fertel Review.