Saving my Marriage – Dressed Like a Woman

What on earth does dressing up like a woman have to do with saving my marriage?

Before your mind goes crazy, here’s the extent of my dressing up.

Saving my Marriage - Even in High Heels!

Saving my Marriage – Even in High Heels!

As you can see, it was merely high heels that I wore. Nothing more. I wasn’t a drag queen or anything like that for crying out loud. LOL.

None-the-less, walking around in high heels gave me ammunition to save my marriage and even strengthen it.

How you ask?

Good question.

But first let me tell you why I was wearing high heels to begin with. Here, where I live and pretty much throughout the country, YWCA sponsors an annual Walk a Mile in Her Shoes fund-raising event. The proceeds raised go towards building awareness for domestic violence and in fact helping women to be housed. The cause is an amazing one to begin with which is why I got involved.

Basically, for one night, MEN, not women, walk around town for a total of 1 mile in high heel shoes. Prior to the event, they solicit donations from the local community and their own friends and colleagues.

The night started around 6pm and by 6.25 the 1 mile walk was pretty much complete.  I however decided I would keep wearing my high heels the ENTIRE night.  It so happens we stayed out till 2am that night. Ugh!

Reason for my madness?

It dawned on me that I don’t know of any women that go out for the night in high heels and simply quit after 1 mile of walking. My wife definitely doesn’t so why should I. To truly walk in her shoes, I needed to keep the movement going all night.

Now… how on earth is this fodder to save a marriage and stop a divorce and what does it have to do with this Mort Fertel Review?

You see… after walking around the whole night in high heels, the next day, my feet were in soooooo much pain it was almost unbearable. I had no idea high heels could do such a number on your feet. I almost begged my wife for a foot massage and even black mailed my kids in doing it for me. In fact, 3 weeks after the event and my left foot is still a little numb. It’s crazy I know but it’s true.

Anyway, after discovering this excruciating pain I realized that a brilliant way of giving my wife a gift – just like Mort Fertel advises in his Marriage Fitness program – is to give her a foot massage every morning after she wears high heels for our date nights.

It may seem common sense and simple – and it is – but guess what? Most husbands just aren’t thinking like this.

I however, thanks to Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program am always thinking of ways I can do small “consistent” things for my wife to show her how much she means to me.

Would I have done this before learning all the marriage saving skills through Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program? Probably not! I just wasn’t thinking like that. Saving my marriage wasn’t a priority then. But it definitely is now!

And thanks to Mort Fertel, I’m always looking for ways to keeping marriage problems away from my marriage and saving my marriage consistently and daily.

I hope you enjoyed this quick post and I look forward to writing more in this Mort Fertel Review.

Want some FREE advice direct from Mort Fertel himself?

Click Here Now to visit his Official Website and start receiving the 7 Secrets to Saving Your Marriage.

Bouncing Back from Set Backs and How to Save Your Marriage Mort Fertel Style

Mort Fertel advises to table your marriage problems rather than addressing them head on. However, this is way harder than it seems.

I know how hard it is. I just had to deal with some setbacks in my marriage and if I didn’t address them right away, my marriage problems could have escalated.

Truth be told, I don’t feel I have any marriage problems right now and that’s a scary place to be. What do I mean?

If there’s one thing I learned for sure from Mort Fertel, and why I created this Mort Fertel Review, is the fact that your marriage ALWAYS needs nurturing. Behind the scenes there are ALWAYS marriage problems brewing and if you’re not aware of them, they will escalate.

The fortunate thing however, for me and you reading this, is that we have in our arsenal excellent marriage saving tips thanks to Mort Fertel.

Let me explain.

For about 3 to 4 weeks I was feeling neglected by my wife. We just didn’t seem to be connecting like we used to. It seemed she was more interested in hanging out with her friends every Thursday night rather than spending time with me. Soon Thursday nights escalating into a few Wednesday’ and Friday’s without me. Inevitably conversation we would have started surrounding around her friends.

What was going on behind the scenes that I was able to learn thanks to Mort Fertel?

After some careful analysis, I figured it out. Denise and I were still hanging out together like we always did BUT now instead of going out to dinner alone, just the 2 of us, we always seemed to be going out with other people as well. Though this can be fun at times, if saving your marriage is your priority, this activity must be limited immediately.

Once I realized this marriage problem brewing, I sat down and had a heart to heart with my wife. I simply told her how I felt and how I was worried that we weren’t connecting like we used to. Thankfully she acknowledged it as well but chalked it up to a simple mishap and said that it’s OK… we’re going to have our ups and downs and maybe not connect all the time!!!

OH OH! This is when I really got scared.

Here she is… the love of my life saying she understands and is OK with us not connecting right now because she FEELS it’s normal.

You know what. It probably is NORMAL for other couples but NOT for me. There is no way I’m living my life like that again. I’ve already been down the road of almost getting a divorce and having to fight tooth and nail to save my marriage. I can’t tell you how many nights I stayed awake reading Mort Fertel and all his advice.

As such, today, Mort Fertel’s theories and advice are so ingrained in me that I can’t help but do things to save my marriage.

My mind, very quickly, snapped back to reality where I realized I needed to once again show 100% initiative to save my marriage and make it blossom like it was just a short 3 or 4 weeks ago.

What did I end up doing?

Starting going on strict date nights again.

Luckily for us, all the other things we’d been doing to avoid marriage problems and save our marriage were still working. Things like talk charges during the day… small gifts for each other… listening to each other… so on and so forth.

Going on strict date nights again JUST THE 2 OF US was the ticket our marriage needed at that exact moment. Since then, almost on autopilot, I’ve been making plans to take Denise out to dinner – just the 2 of us – and no one else. Typically we would do this and then after dinner go meet some friends but even that I’m avoiding right now.

I want the date night to be just about us and no one else. Eventually we will filter other FRIENDS into our lives but THEY ARE NOT a PRIORITY… my wife and saving my marriage is.

Am I a genius for realizing and implementing all this? No, not at all! Simply put… Mort Fertel’s advice on saving my marriage is so ingrained in my thinking, that when I feel any type of resistance in my marriage moving super smoothly, I go back to all the advice Mort Fertel provided. As such, I hope you enjoyed this post and please keep reading this Mort Fertel Review.

Want to Learn More? Click Here to visit Mort Fertel’s Official Website and get access to Marriage Saving Tips Instantly. This is exactly how I started. You won’t regret it!

How Can I Save My Marriage Asked My Friend? You Won’t Believe What I Told Him!

“I need to Save My Marriage?”

What should I do?

Considering I have an amazing success rate in saving my marriage thanks to Mort Fertel Marriage Fitness, friends and strangers alike have been asking me for marriage help for a few years now.

And I love helping where I can so it was no surprise when one of my friends asked me an emotional “how can I save my marriage. I need to stop a divorce. Help me”

His desperation brought back some nasty memories for me but here are the questions I asked him followed by some straight forward advice to save a marriage and stop a divorce.

First question I asked was…

“Ok explain to me what’s going on?”

Of course at this…he like almost all of us went on and starting explaining how his wife was screwing up and jeopardizing their marriage several different ways. Not only was she not giving the marriage any more effort but she was also entertaining conversations with an old romantic flame from high school.

Knowing this was a very emotionally charged situation I was careful on how I proceeded but my questioning began as follows.

“First things first, I’m sorry you’re going through this man…I know it sucks…but tell me, what role have you played in this marriage collapsing to its current point?”

Shocked with my line of questioning my friend asked… “didn’t you hear what I just said…my wife is talking to an old romantic flame from high school…she’s the one f***ing up”.

I replied “I understand that but trust me… she didn’t just wake up one day and say to herself…you know what…I’m going to reconnect with an old romantic flame from high school.

No… truth be told, she’s probably been miserable for quite some time and only now are you seeing the results of that past misery.

So once again… what was your role in allowing this marriage to get where it is today?”

Now my friend was starting to see the picture more clearly.

Far too often when it comes to marriage problems we want to blame the other party but if there’s one valuable lesson I learned from Mort Fertel Marriage Fitness, it’s that we need to concentrate on Our Own Problems before we start blaming others for our marriage problems.

After some more probing, my friend finally started to come up with some good answers. Here’s a list of the problems he’s personally caused in his marriage.

1. Neglecting his wife in favor of playing video games;
2. Not going to bed at the same time as his wife so completely losing the opportunity to be emotionally connected with her;
3. Not being available for her by phone during the day when she called for stuff – usually blaming it on both their busy work schedules;
4. Not taking the effort to connect with her during the day – not even a simple text to ask how your day was going;
5. Coming home from a long-day of work and rather than sitting and connecting with his wife, instead opening up a beer;
6. Drinking beer in excess daily until it became a major issue in their marriage;
7. Not going on regular dates with his wife;
8. Not doing special things for her just because; and
9. Many more I’m sure but you get the idea!

Once revealed I knew his marriage problems were severe!

How did I know this with certainty?

Because I have already gone through Mort Fertel Marriage Fitness and I personally was to blame for all these problems back in the day as well.

It was like déjà vu staring me smack in the face. I hated hearing about his problems because they brought back terrible memories of my marriage problems.

Now… given all this, what did I tell him to start doing immediately to start fixing his marriage problems and saving his marriage?

I wish the advice I gave him was profound but truth be told now that I’ve created this Mort Fertel Review it’s like second nature to me and so easy to come up with the right advice.

For starters I told him to:

#1: Table any issues he personally has with his wife and definitely to forget about the fact she’s talking to some old romantic flame.
• To fix your marriage problems, you need to start letting things go.
• Fixing a marriage isn’t about who’s right or wrong… it’s about creating a
connection again with your spouse to a point where marriage problems don’t exist
anymore.
• I explained to him that he’ll never forget about this other guy in the picture which in the end could be a good thing for him.
• For some reason or the other, she’s going to him for conversation rather than you.
• It’s your job to figure out why and be what she needs!

#2: I told him to sit down and try to remember how him and his wife used to be when they first fell in love.
• What did they used to do?
• How often did they see each other?
• How often would they laugh together?
• How often would they go on vacation?
• How often would they talk to each other during the day?

#3: After figuring out how they “used to be” I advised him to start doing some of the things they used to do. In essence his job became to create the same type of environment from the past where they were in love.

#4: I also advised him about working on himself. I asked him… “look… back in the day your wife was madly in love with you. Why? What was she in love with? Was it a guy who comes home and plays video games or someone who doesn’t talk to her and would rather drink beer? Who was it? Think deep about this?
• Upon investigation, my friend remembered some of the things he used to be into but has long let go because he moved on in life. He blamed it on marriage and kids.
• Look… getting married or having children isn’t a death sentence. You don’t have to reinvent yourself. You can be the same person as long as you are considerate to your spouse and kids.
• From this discovery, my friend has started to pursue some of his old passions like drag racing cars. As a side note… I told him that’s super cool. In fact pretty sexy if you ask me. Imagine yourself drag racing again with your helmet on. Your wife will probably be attracted to that again.

So there you have it…the advice I gave my friend in a nutshell on how to save a marriage and stop a divorce.

I wish I could take all the credit for this but I can’t.

I simply learned all this through Mort Fertel Marriage Fitness.

In fact my marriage is so strong today because of Mort Fertel that I have spent a considerable time over the last few years creating the Mort Fertel Review blog so others like you reading this right now can benefit from my mistakes and discovery.

Before I finish, if you’re having some marriage problems right now and need to save your marriage, I wholeheartedly recommend Mort’s program. Getting started couldn’t be easier.

Simply Click Here to Visit Mort Fertel’s Official Site and start getting help instantly directly from Mort.

Good luck and I hope you enjoyed this post and once again thank you for checking out this Mort Fertel Review.

Mort Fertel Says 100% All-In Commitment is Needed! What Does He Mean?

Ever since my marriage problems and having saved my marriage because of Mort Fertel and his Marriage Fitness program, I’m very quick to pick up hints when other people are having trouble in their marriage.

The actual problems marriage’s experience can be vast and vary so much it would take me hours upon hours just to write about them but there is one common theme I see and hear typically when speaking with people about their issues.

More often than not, one spouse or the other is always blaming the other one for their marriage problems.  Typically this goes something like this…

“If only she would do this…I would then do this”

Basically what I hear them saying is… they want their spouse to change first before they start taking the appropriate steps to fix the marriage.

Let me tell you, according to Mort Fertel and me now that I’ve experienced it, this is completely wrong.

If you want to fix your marriage problems, YOU personally need to step up and take 100% responsibility for doing it.  Perhaps you like almost everyone else (myself included before I was enlightened) think your marriage is a 50-50 relationship where your spouse is half responsible for creating a healthy marriage.

Well…let me break it to you.  You’re wrong!

If you want to save your marriage, you need to take 100% of the responsibility.  This can be very difficult but it’s also very rewarding once your marriage is repaired.  Simply put, don’t ever think the only way you’ll have a healthy marriage is if both you and your spouse are working at it equally.

In a perfect world this would be ideal but it doesn’t always start like that.  Especially if you’re in the middle of trying to save your marriage.  You see, when I was trying to stop my divorce, I was the only one doing anything to make it happen. My wife at the time wanted nothing to do with me. In fact, I was a pure bother to her.  I’m not mad at her though.  It was the natural state of our marriage at the time.

She was more interested in her other life outside our marriage.  She was no longer in love with me. In fact, I doubt she even loved me then.  At best, I was a good father in her eyes and a decent roommate to have and an awesome babysitter because she was out and about gallivanting around with her new friends while I stayed at home to take care of our children.

It was a very crappy time for me and I was trying desperately to figure out how I can save my marriage.  It’s probably right around this time I read in Mort Fertel Marriage Fitness that if you want to save your marriage you need to take 100% responsibility for it.

Unfortunately prior to this, I was probably half-assed in my effort because I was hoping my wife would reciprocate some type of effort to save our marriage.  But it never happened.  She just didn’t care and wasn’t interested in doing so.  As such, I had to come up with a different mind-set because I was going absolutely crazy waiting for her to put some effort into saving our marriage.

Finally I said to myself…”OK Mort Fertel, you better know what you’re talking about” and jumped all in.

Moving forward I started doing all the things necessary to try and save our marriage.  These included:

  • Calling my wife randomly during the day (talk charges);
  • Trying to touch her ever so slightly to try and connect with her physically (touch charges)
  • Setting up events where we could hang out as a family;
  • Setting up a meeting with just the 2 of us;
  • Leaving her a note around the home to tell her how much she means to us;
  • Saying sincere things to her about how good of a mother she is;
  • Complimenting her on how well she maintained our home and several more!

Now pay attention here.  These were all sincere thoughts I truly believed.  You don’t ever want to manipulate the situation or say something you don’t believe because your spouse will see right through it.

Regardless of what you’re saying or what effort you’re making to save your marriage, this post is designed to reiterate one very important thing to you.

If you plan to save your marriage and stop your divorce, stop thinking your marriage is a 50-50 relationship. It’s not!  If you want to have an amazing marriage, get comfortable with the idea that it will take 100% effort from you and more often than not, you will be the ONLY one putting in the effort.

Now, if you’re lucky like I was after going through Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program, you’ll soon discover that your spouse is back and now they’re starting to put effort back into maintaining a healthy marriage.  When that happens… things become amazing but don’t ever think you can stop.  You have to maintain and keep watering your marriage on a daily basis.  It’ll be the best thing you ever do!

Want some FREE Insider Advice from Mort Fertel himself to save your marriage?  Click Here Now for his official site!

How EXACTLY did I save my marriage? Find out in this Mort Fertel Review VIDEO!

A lot of people ask me how exactly Mort Fertel enabled me to stop my divorce and save my marriage. Almost everyone thinks it was luck and it’s easy for me to do it. Truth is, it takes a lot of work to make it happen. Luckily the work is very enjoyable. Meaning doing nice things for the woman I love.

I would say that’s probably the biggest benefit I got because of Mort Fertel and his Marriage Fitness program. Simply put… I took the course and became a better person and in turn became a better husband.

I still apply behaviors to my marriage that I learned from Mort Fertel quite a while ago but today more than ever, his Marriage Fitness course still holds a lot of weight. He really knows what he’s talking about when it comes to saving a marriage or stopping a divorce.

Mort’s gone through his own marriage problems. In fact, he was almost divorced and saved his marriage. It’s actually been a while since I took his course but don’t be fooled, I still use what I learned from him and if you want to hear what I have to say right now about his course, please check out the VIDEO below. I hope you enjoy it!

Are you ready to fix your marriage problems?  Click Here Now and learn Insider Secrets from Mort Fertel himself!

Mort Fertel says to Put Love First – How Do You Do It and How Can This Help Save Your Marriage?

Mort Fertel would love this!

It’s 2:54 pm on Friday and I’m leaving a random bar/restaurant where I just spent 2 hours with my wife.  Earlier today I was sitting in my office because I had a crap load of work to do but my wife asked me a fairly innocent question.

“Hey honey…what’s your day like today?”

I instantly replied “not too bad… you want to have a day date and have lunch?”

She replies, “yes, that’s exactly what I was thinking”.

Long story short, we were in tune with each other and for the next couple hours I kicked butt to get my work done while she did too so we could go spend some quality time with each other while our kids were still at school.

Why exactly is this relevant when it comes to Mort Fertel and how to save a marriage?

Here’s why.  Truth is…prior to going through Mort Fertel Marriage Fitness I doubt I would have put my work aside to go out on a random date lunch with my wife.  Back then before I learned how to save a marriage, my work was the priority… not my wife.  Not anymore though.

Ever since I learned the “Put Love First” concept from Marriage Fitness, I look for and take advantage of these opportunities?

Why?

Simple!  It’s an easy way for me to show my wife she is the #1 priority in my life.  That I will literally drop everything if it means I can spend time connecting with here.

The fact is, if you’re here I presume you know I had marriage problems.  They were serious in nature and had become so big that I had to literally scratch and crawl to stop my divorce and save my marriage.    And the biggest reason I had these marriage problems in the first place was because I was cheating on my wife.

No… not the way you’re thinking!  I was not cheating on her with another woman, but rather my work.  You see…she wasn’t my priority, my work was!  Given the choice before, I would rather have spent time working then take a break to spend time with my wife.  I would have instead said, “I’m sorry I can’t, I have too much work to do!”

Have you done that before?  Think about it.  What is that telling your spouse?  That work is more important than them right?

Of course there needs to be a balance.  It’s not like every day I drop everything in favor of having a random lunch with my wife and a couple beers during the day.

By the way, if you haven’t ever done that, try it.  Going to a bar during the day with the person you love is brilliant.  It’s usually just you and them and you can really pay attention to each other.  It’s a great experience!

We basically spent 2 hours just hanging out with each other.  We reconnected for the day.  We looked into each other’s eyes.  We played one of those MegaTouch games where you look at 2 different pictures to see what the differences are. We had lunch and shared a sandwich together.

Bottom line, we connected in almost every way while we were there for 2 hours.  This little 2 hour break was 1000 times better than any marriage therapy or marriage counseling you could ever pay for and it only cost us $49.

As a side note, “it only cost US $49”.  See how I used the word US instead of me.  That’s another huge lesson I plan on posting about sometime soon.  Prior to Marriage Fitness I used to say “cost me” and there’s a huge reason you should stop doing that.

Anyway, back to my post.

Traditional marriage counseling just doesn’t cut it when it comes to saving a marriage. Instead Mort Fertel Marriage Fitness is the way to go because once you’ve gone through it and you sincerely want to change, almost naturally you’ll start doing the things I just described above.  You will become another person!

I hope you pay attention and start doing it because my story above is the perfect example of how you can “Put Love First” Mort Fertel style!

Are You Ready to Save Your Marriage? Click Here for FREE Marriage Help Tips from Mort Fertel